Mencari Jati Diri

     "Jati diri"... seberapa sering kita mendengar ucapan ini? Sebagian besar dari kita, remaja pastinya pernah mendengar ucapan ini. Kita diberitahu untuk mencari jati diri kita, untuk mencari tau siapa diri kita yang sebenarnya.

      Akan tetapi hal itu menjadikan kita hanya terfokus pada "diri kita yang sebenarnya" dan melupakan diri kita yang sekarang. Sehingga besar kemungkinan kita akan melewatkan berbagai kesempatan dan kebahagiaan yang ditawarkan hidup ini kepada kita. Kita akan berhenti menikmati hidup karena terlalu sibuk mencari jati diri.

    Diri kita yang dulu, sekarang, maupun yang akan datang, semuanya adalah "diri kita yang sebenarnya". Kita tidak dilahirkan dengan sifat-sifat yang seperti sekarang, kita hidup dan belajar dari kehidupan. Kita mengambil kebiasaan dan sifat orang lain, kita semua begitu. Kalau tidak percaya, anda bisa coba tanyakan hal ini pada diri anda "kebiasaan apa yang tidak saya ambil dari orang lain?" Dan lihat jawabannya.

     Jadi, apa yang disebut dengan jati diri ini sebenarnya tidak ada. Daripada menghabiskan waktu kita yang berharga untuk mencarinya, jauh lebih baik bagi kita untuk mensyukuri dan menikmati hidup yang kita miliki sekarang ini.

One Best Thing Every Leader Should Have

     What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word 'leader'? Is it someone who bravely stand up when no one else want to take a stand? Someone who bring changes to the world? Or is it someone who have control over the world?

     Well it could be all of the above, or more. Regardless, leaders are what makes our world the way it is now. They bring changes, chaos, opportunity, light, and darkness to the world. And if we look closely, almost everything around us is the product of these leaders and their amazing followers. Take a look at your computer, smartphone, car, paper, all of these are things that are unimaginable in the past.

     What every great leaders have in common are Vision. It's important to have compassion, kindness, faith, and courage. But it's not enough. You need a vision to bring changes to the world. You need to know what kind of changes do you want to make to the world to really make it happen. And only then will you have true followers who shares those very vision and who are willing to change the world with you. They have faith in the future you're trying to make. They want to make that vision, that dream a reality. And they're willing to do their best even if you didn't told them to. These group of people is what makes a great leader different from others.

     All this time you might feel like you want to change the world, but tell yourself that you're not a leader. Then let me say this, "Everyone is a leader". Every single one of us, including you. Even if you feel like you don't have any organization to lead, even a family to lead, you're still a leader of yourself. It's up to you to lead that individual. His life is for you to decide. So, "what's your vision?"


Have a great one,

Feby

How to Live Without Regret

     I want my life to be amazing. I don't want any regret. I want to have a successful and happy life. But I realize, it's not just me that want those things. Each of us want to live our life without regret. And I want to share what I know about it. 

     The way to live a fulfilling life devoid of regret is to live as if today is your last day. Live as if you're going to die tomorrow. And you'll focus more on the most important work, the thing that you have to do no matter what, the things that you told yourself "I'll do that tomorrow" but never did. Since tomorrow might never comes, today is the only time to do it. And sometimes, tomorrow indeed will not come. So stop putting works on your to-do list and just do it now. Do whatever it is you want to do most. Fix that broken relationship with your ex-, your family, your friend. Make sure you're satisfied with how you left things with life. Sleep with a satisfied smile. And if you do wake up the next day, be grateful that you've been given a chance to live a little more. And do your best today too, make it more awesome that yesterday. Keep doing it and your life will be an amazing one, devoid of any regret.

     Everything else is irrelevant in the face of death. Even the fear that always hold us back from our work crumbles away. Believing death will get you tomorrow really is the best cure of fear and other negative thoughts. Even if you're not a religious type who believe afterlife will come, you'll more likely to do work that matters and good deeds to the world when pitted against death. So the next time you feel like you want to live an amazing life, just live like today is your last.

Sincerely,

Feby

The Foundation to Make Habit Sticks

     So, yesterday I tried to make a new habit to wake up at 2 a.m. everyday. And I did wake up today around 3 o'clock, a little late I know. I feel so refreshed and all, I feel so fired up to start the brandnew day. But guess what, I didn't get as productive as I thought I would. I wake up 2 hour earlier than usual, I have all the time necessary to make a change. But I just sit there on my bed and do nothing. Now what's the problem? Where did I go wrong with this?

     I realized later in the evening that the problem is I didn't tell myself "Why" I want that habit. So of course without any reason to wake up at 2, I wouldn't know what to do, so might as well go back to sleep. This holds true for every habit I successfully made. I need a reason to do it. Whatever will do. Having a reason or a why will help me stay motivated and focused on my goal. The more specific the better. Rather than "to be more productive" be more specific and say "I'll wake up at 2 so that I could do more with blogging (or studying/excercising/whatever)". This will create a mental image and connection in my mind. And I'll be motivated to do it.

      This might sound obvious, but the next time you want to make a new habit be sure to tell yourself why you want it. what's the benefit, the good, the perks? And enjoy the proccess the next time you do that habit.

Focus on the Work that Matters

     The world seems to be filled with more and more abundance everyday. Be it informations, entertainments, goods, services, everything is there. This abundance is something that's unthinkable in the past. And now, with internet, it's easier than ever to get access with these kind of thing. More and more content keeps coming everyday, what works today might become useless tomorrow. And people will ask for more, they will never get enough of it. And the cycle repeat.

     But even though there's a lot of things available, only a small portion that really have some value to us. The others are either fluffs or scams. The one that won't make you grow as a person or help you with whatever problem you have. And with the limited time we have, it will be better if we don't waste our time with these fluffs.

    I know there are many things on the net that caught our interest. And it's compelling to click on that pretty blue link. But let's face it, you don't need most of them and you know it. Why? Because I've been there. I wasted hours of my life on the net everyday. I still do, but I made a commitment to myself to stop focusing on the little things. The things that doesn't matter. And instead focus on the work that matters. Which is the one that i'm compelled to do, that will lead me to be a better person, and the thing that won't make me want to puke because of wasting my time.

     To make it a habit, I only turn on my computer (or whatever device I'm using that day) with a specific goal in mind. If i want to write an article, I keep that in mind and do just that with my computer. Other people suggests that it is better to use software to keep you from getting sidetracked. But for me, it is better and easier this way. You might disagree with me there, and I want you to disagree if you can. Don't take other people's words for your own life. Rather, just listen and then decide for yourself, what works for you might be different from them. Because you're special, and I want you to know that.

Kenapa Anda Selalu Sendiri?

     Apa anda sering menghabiskan waktu seorang diri? Walaupun sebenarnya anda ingin sekali menghabiskan waktu dengan orang-orang disekitar anda, entah kenapa anda tidak pernah berhasil melakukannya. Anda selalu kembali ke kesendirian ini. Seakan dunia ini tidak mengizinkan anda untuk melakukan sebaliknya. Bahkan "kesepian" pun mungkin tidak dapat mendeskripsikan apa yang anda rasakan.

     Jika anda tau apa penyebab masalahnya, mungkin anda bisa mengubah takdir anda ini. Jadi apa yang salah? Apakah orang yang mendidik anda? Apakah teman-teman anda? Ataukah dunia ini yang menjadi masalah utamanya? Anda dan saya sama-sama tau, bahwa yang benar-benar salah bukanlah hal-hal itu. Sekalipun dunia ini terus mendorong anda ke jurang kehancuran, hal itu tidak akan berpengaruh pada anda. Kecuali kalau anda menurutinya dan melompat ke dasar jurang. Masalahnya bukanlah dunia ini, masalahnya ada pada anda.

     Mungkin pendekatan yang selama ini anda lakukanlah yang harus dibenahi. Pernahkah anda membuat rencana rekreasi dengan teman-teman anda? Anda begitu bersemangat untuk pergi sampai membuat perencanaan yang begitu detail dan sempurna. Tapi semua batal begitu saja.
Mungkin ajakan anda memberatkan mereka. Mungkin anda terkesan memaksa. Mungkin anda menyanggupi untuk melaksanakannya tetapi tidak pernah memenuhi janji itu. Mungkin anda merupakan tipe orang yang selalu menjauhi orang-orang disekitar anda dan tidak disukai.
Atau mungkin dulu anda selalu menolak ajakan mereka, sehingga sekarang tidak ada lagi yang ingin ikut acara anda maupun mengundang anda ke dalam acara mereka.

     Semua hal-hal kecil ini membentuk realita anda yang sekarang. Dan apa yang anda usahakan sekarang akan menentukan realita anda di masa yang akan datang. Anda tau apa yang harus anda lakukan untuk mengubah masa depan anda. Jangan sampai menjelang ajal nanti anda akan melihat ke masa lalu menyesal. Memang berat, tapi percayalah pada diri anda sendiri. Anda itu orang yang luar biasa dan saya tau itu.

Keajaiban dari Rasa Syukur

     Seberapa sering anda mensyukuri nikmat dan karunia yang telah diberikan kepada anda? Setiap jam, menit, detik ada banyak sekali nikmat yang telah diberikan Tuhan kepada kita. Mulai dari nikmat-nikmat yang kecil seperti naungan awan saat cuaca panas, sampai nikmat yang besar seperti masih bisa bernafas dan hidup di dunia ini.

     Kebanyakan dari kita seringkali lupa atas nikmat-nikmat kita ini dan malah terobsesi dengan nikmat yang tidak kita miliki. Contoh kita begitu ingin menjadi seperti tetangga kita yang kaya raya, sampai-sampai kita lupa dengan hidup kita yang sudah berkecukupan, yang justru bisa menjadi kelebihan tersendiri bagi kita jika kita mensyukurinya.

     Jika kita mensyukuri apa yang telah kita miliki,  Tuhan akan menambah nikmat kita. Tidak ada alasan bagi kita untuk tidak menjadi orang yang pandai bersyukur. Bersyukurlah karena masih bisa melihat, karena diberi tubuh yang begitu sempurna. Banyak orang diluar sana yang cacat fisiknya, yang ingin sekali memiliki tubuh yang sempurna seperti anda. Bersyukurlah dengan waktu yang anda miliki dan ingat mati, maka anda pun akan secara otomatis berusaha keras untuk memanfaatkan setiap detik dari sisa waktu yang anda miliki.

     Biasakanlah untuk mensyukuri segala hal yang anda temui. 5 menit setelah bangun tidur dan 5 menit sebelum tidur. Lalu lihat hasilnya dalam hidup anda, apakah nikmat anda benar-benar bertamba atau tidak. Dan perlahan, naikkan levelnya dari 10 menit setiap hari menjadi setiap saat.

     Ubah kebiasaan ini menjadi pola pikir anda. Dan anda pun akan menjadi orang yang optimis, berpikiran terbuka dan bisa melihat berbagai kesempatan yang tersedia di hidup anda. Ini akan mengantarkan anda pada kehidupan yang lebih baik