Hidup dengan Satu Mata: 3 Hal yang Saya Pelajari

    Banyak orang tidak menyadari betapa besarnya karunia yang mereka miliki. Semua terlalu sibuk memandang ke atas, mengharap yang lebih, hingga melupakan apa yang telah dimiliki. Saya malu mengatakan ini, tapi saya juga termasuk ke dalam golongan ini. Setidaknya hingga suatu kejadian mengubah cara pandang saya untuk selamanya.

One Best Thing Every Leader Should Have

     What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word 'leader'? Is it someone who bravely stand up when no one else want to take a stand? Someone who bring changes to the world? Or is it someone who have control over the world?

     Well it could be all of the above, or more. Regardless, leaders are what makes our world the way it is now. They bring changes, chaos, opportunity, light, and darkness to the world. And if we look closely, almost everything around us is the product of these leaders and their amazing followers. Take a look at your computer, smartphone, car, paper, all of these are things that are unimaginable in the past.

     What every great leaders have in common are Vision. It's important to have compassion, kindness, faith, and courage. But it's not enough. You need a vision to bring changes to the world. You need to know what kind of changes do you want to make to the world to really make it happen. And only then will you have true followers who shares those very vision and who are willing to change the world with you. They have faith in the future you're trying to make. They want to make that vision, that dream a reality. And they're willing to do their best even if you didn't told them to. These group of people is what makes a great leader different from others.

     All this time you might feel like you want to change the world, but tell yourself that you're not a leader. Then let me say this, "Everyone is a leader". Every single one of us, including you. Even if you feel like you don't have any organization to lead, even a family to lead, you're still a leader of yourself. It's up to you to lead that individual. His life is for you to decide. So, "what's your vision?"


Have a great one,

Feby

How to Live Without Regret

     I want my life to be amazing. I don't want any regret. I want to have a successful and happy life. But I realize, it's not just me that want those things. Each of us want to live our life without regret. And I want to share what I know about it. 

     The way to live a fulfilling life devoid of regret is to live as if today is your last day. Live as if you're going to die tomorrow. And you'll focus more on the most important work, the thing that you have to do no matter what, the things that you told yourself "I'll do that tomorrow" but never did. Since tomorrow might never comes, today is the only time to do it. And sometimes, tomorrow indeed will not come. So stop putting works on your to-do list and just do it now. Do whatever it is you want to do most. Fix that broken relationship with your ex-, your family, your friend. Make sure you're satisfied with how you left things with life. Sleep with a satisfied smile. And if you do wake up the next day, be grateful that you've been given a chance to live a little more. And do your best today too, make it more awesome that yesterday. Keep doing it and your life will be an amazing one, devoid of any regret.

     Everything else is irrelevant in the face of death. Even the fear that always hold us back from our work crumbles away. Believing death will get you tomorrow really is the best cure of fear and other negative thoughts. Even if you're not a religious type who believe afterlife will come, you'll more likely to do work that matters and good deeds to the world when pitted against death. So the next time you feel like you want to live an amazing life, just live like today is your last.

Sincerely,

Feby

The Foundation to Make Habit Sticks

     So, yesterday I tried to make a new habit to wake up at 2 a.m. everyday. And I did wake up today around 3 o'clock, a little late I know. I feel so refreshed and all, I feel so fired up to start the brandnew day. But guess what, I didn't get as productive as I thought I would. I wake up 2 hour earlier than usual, I have all the time necessary to make a change. But I just sit there on my bed and do nothing. Now what's the problem? Where did I go wrong with this?

     I realized later in the evening that the problem is I didn't tell myself "Why" I want that habit. So of course without any reason to wake up at 2, I wouldn't know what to do, so might as well go back to sleep. This holds true for every habit I successfully made. I need a reason to do it. Whatever will do. Having a reason or a why will help me stay motivated and focused on my goal. The more specific the better. Rather than "to be more productive" be more specific and say "I'll wake up at 2 so that I could do more with blogging (or studying/excercising/whatever)". This will create a mental image and connection in my mind. And I'll be motivated to do it.

      This might sound obvious, but the next time you want to make a new habit be sure to tell yourself why you want it. what's the benefit, the good, the perks? And enjoy the proccess the next time you do that habit.

Focus on the Work that Matters

     The world seems to be filled with more and more abundance everyday. Be it informations, entertainments, goods, services, everything is there. This abundance is something that's unthinkable in the past. And now, with internet, it's easier than ever to get access with these kind of thing. More and more content keeps coming everyday, what works today might become useless tomorrow. And people will ask for more, they will never get enough of it. And the cycle repeat.

     But even though there's a lot of things available, only a small portion that really have some value to us. The others are either fluffs or scams. The one that won't make you grow as a person or help you with whatever problem you have. And with the limited time we have, it will be better if we don't waste our time with these fluffs.

    I know there are many things on the net that caught our interest. And it's compelling to click on that pretty blue link. But let's face it, you don't need most of them and you know it. Why? Because I've been there. I wasted hours of my life on the net everyday. I still do, but I made a commitment to myself to stop focusing on the little things. The things that doesn't matter. And instead focus on the work that matters. Which is the one that i'm compelled to do, that will lead me to be a better person, and the thing that won't make me want to puke because of wasting my time.

     To make it a habit, I only turn on my computer (or whatever device I'm using that day) with a specific goal in mind. If i want to write an article, I keep that in mind and do just that with my computer. Other people suggests that it is better to use software to keep you from getting sidetracked. But for me, it is better and easier this way. You might disagree with me there, and I want you to disagree if you can. Don't take other people's words for your own life. Rather, just listen and then decide for yourself, what works for you might be different from them. Because you're special, and I want you to know that.

The First Step to World Domination

     Have you ever wanted to change the world? Do you want to make the world a better place? That's great! Whatever your motivations are, changing the world for the better are the best thing for every single one of us to do. It's worth pursuing and it's worth all the time you spend on it. What matters is the good intention and not letting this dream be dream. The result will follow afterward.

     Today I want to talk about one of the most essential part to achieving this dream. It's How to Change Other People. Trust me, if you can do this, changing the world or even taking over the world will be a piece of cake. And the best way to do this is to do it with Kindness and Compassion to any and everything we do. Not just toward others, but toward yourself and the world.

      The only thing that can change a person is that person itself. But everything began from the Heart. And we can touch this heart with our kindness and compassion. This is truly the hardest thing to do. And at the same time, this is the most natural thing to be done.

      You can start with asking question and listening to them. Listen to what they say and notice what left unsaid, their body language, and the feelings behind it. See how you can make that person's life better.  If you want to help everyone who have the same problem with him, you can share it on the internet. If you're a writer, you can write a book about it. If you're a musician, devote your next music to him. The bottom line is this do what you can, with what you have. And by doing this over and over again, you'll get used to even solve the world's most difficult problem and you'll have a huge crowd of true followers which will change the world with you.
      

[Seeker] Photographic Memory

Kali ini penulis akan share sedikit tentang pengalaman penulis dengan photographic memory. Photographic memory, kemampuan otak manusia untuk menyimpan informasi yang masuk melalui mata dalam bentuk gambar. Sebagian orang meragukan akan adanya kemampuan ini. Akan tetapi penulis yakin, kemampuan ini memang benar ada. Meskipun tidak setingkat/sehebat yang banyak orang katakan(contoh bisa memfoto dengan sempurna isi sebuah buku), akan tetapi teknik ini dimiliki oleh setiap manusia.

Penulis sendiri pernah beberapa kali tanpa sengaja menggunakan teknik ini. Kemudian terpikir oleh penulis untuk mencobanya dengan sengaja, memang tidak sempurna tapi bisa dikatakan hal ini berhasil dilakukan, tetapi penulis langsung merasa pusing dan sakit kepala yang tidak kunjung reda untuk beberapa saat. Mungkin ada yang salah dengan cara penulis melakukannya. Atau mungkin seperti dugaan penulis, ada beberapa syarat yang harus dipenuhi untuk bisa menggunakannya -_- benar-benar kemampuan yang menyebalkan.

Dan penulis percaya salah satu syaratnya ada hubungannya dengan post penulis sebelumnya. Yaitu "melihat dunia sebagaimana mestinya". Jadi kita harus berhenti melihat huruf sebagai huruf, angka sebagai angka, objek sebagai objek, dsb. Kita harus berhenti memberi nama dan label pada semua yang kita lihat, dan kita melihat murni karena kita benar-benar melihat.

Penulis juga menduga ada syarat yang berhubungan dengan seberapa kuat imajinasi kita mempengaruhi apa yang mata kita lihat. Mungkin semakin kuat semakin baik, mungkin juga sebaliknya. Menurut penulis pribadi, imajinasi hanya akan mengganggu dalam hal ini.

Mungkin agak sulit untuk dimengerti, untuk itu penulis minta maaf.
Semua ini memang baru hipotesa penulis belaka, karena itu masih harus diuji dan dicari kebenarannya. Itu saja untuk postingan penulis pada malam hari ini. Terimakasih karena telah menyempatkan diri untuk membacanya. Sampai bertemu di lain waktu~ ^_^

[Seeker] Gathering of Star

Belakangan ini penulis berpikir ... kenapa orang-orang terdekat penulis adalah orang yang mirip dengan diri penulis sendiri? Apa itu karena kesamaan sifat? Pola pikir? Atau sesuatu yang lain?
Apa penulis dipertemukan dengan orang-orang ini agar penulis berkaca dan melihat diri penulis yang ada pada mereka?

Apa itu artinya orang-orang sejenis saling tarik-menarik satu sama lain? Bagaimana jika penulis berubah? Apa penulis akan dipertemukan dengan orang-orang baru sesuai dengan perubahan penulis? Bagaimana dengan orang-orang terdekat penulis saat ini? Jika mereka tidak berubah seperti penulis, apa itu artinya mereka akan berhenti menjadi orang-orang terdekat penulis?

Pertanyaan-pertanyaan ini sampai sekarang belum bisa penulis jawab dengan pasti. Akan tetapi penulis tau satu hal, hanya hal baik yang akan terjadi jika penulis terus-menerus berubah dan memperbaiki diri.

Lantas bagaimana caranya? Apa yang harus penulis lakukan untuk berubah?
Apapun yang penulis lihat, baca, dengar, lakukan, dan apapun yang penulis rasakan, semua itu bisa merubah penulis. Semua yang menyentuh hati penulis akan merubah diri penulis sekecil apapun perubahan itu. Penulis cuma perlu memastikan bahwa yang menyentuh hati penulis itu hanya hal-hal yang baik saja. Jika penulis bisa melakukan hal itu, maka perubahan yang baiklah yang akan penulis dapat.

Dan pada akhirnya penulis akan menjadi orang hebat dan menciptakan "Gathering of stars" penulis sendiri. Dimana penulis dikelilingi orang-orang hebat lainnya sebagai kawan dan rekan penulis di dunia dan surga nanti.


Penulis rasa untuk kedepannya akan banyak bermunculan postingan seperti ini di blog penulis.
Entah apa itu merupakan hal yang bagus atau tidak (._.) Yaa, pokoknya sampai ketemu di postingan selanjutnya~